13 Jan Already Stalled? Jump-Start January With 3 Questions

jump start carAfter I arrived at work the other day, my wife, Rachel, sent me a text saying, “D, my van won’t start. Please keep your phone with you just in case I need you.” Immediately, I thought, “Wow, I’m pathetic! I’m 35 years old and still lack the confidence to jump a car the old-fashioned way. In fact, I barely know how to fix a windshield wiper.” A few hours later, thankfully, I received another text from Rachel saying, “Uncle Tom is at our house fixing the van.” Whew. Once again, I got away with my low mechanical IQ.

For those of you who experience extreme temperatures and snow, you’re surely aware that vehicle issues are a part of life at this time of year. Sometimes the problems are caused by human error … other times it is normal wear and tear. In this particular situation, our van died because I left an interior light on overnight. It was my very own human error that caused the issue.

Now, let’s switch gears for a moment.

For those of you who were bold enough to entertain New Year’s resolutions at the beginning of this year, think about the last thirty days. In the middle of December, were you “too busy” to dig deeper into what New Year’s resolutions could potentially change your life? At the beginning of January, did you talk yourself out of a New Year’s resolution because so many people around you (at home, work, the gym) were too negative about the likelihood of succeeding?

Click to Tweet: Don’t stop creating and achieving New Year’s resolutions because negative people around you are giving up. @derekdeprey #movetogrow

You see … all of these “stalls” are your very own human errors.

Reality check … We’re already in the middle of January. How do you feel? Are you still excited? Are you eager to see what’s in store for the upcoming year? Or, have you completely given up? You might be thinking, “Derek, why are you writing this article so early in the year? Shouldn’t you be writing about failing resolutions during the summer slump or at the mid-point of the year?” Definitely not.  Now is the best time to positively impact your year.

A couple of weeks ago, I finished my vision for 2016. I’m extremely excited to share with you my 3 Impact Questions as well as the initial responses that I used to set my goals.

  • On a scale of 1-10 (1 is low & 10 is high), how happy were you with 2015? (Evaluation Question)
    • 8.5
  • What 3-4 things will you do differently in 2016 to increase your rating and make it your best year yet? (Thinking Question)
    • Read a personal development book every night before bed to get fresh ideas vs. working on other projects.
    • Take one pilates or yoga class every week to relax vs. performing all high-intensity workouts.
    • Create an interactive leadership skill-building boot-camp vs. mostly keynote-type sessions.
    • Be more present in my conversations at home vs. checking my phone every few minutes.
  • What next steps will you take right away, even before the Super Bowl, to ensure momentum and success? (Doing Question)
    • Read the book that I’m most interested in first.
    • Check out my gym’s group exercise schedule and select a weekly yoga or pilates class.
    • Observe and write down the skills that most leaders want to improve.
    • Put down my phone between the hours of 6:15pm and 8:15pm.
Click to Tweet: If you’ve stalled, you, and only you, can jump-start yourself. @derekdeprey #movetogrow
ACTION: Block off 30 minutes to schedule a breather and to reflect in order to start making progress. Answer the 3 Impact Questions with brutal honesty. Write down your answers. Finally, do what you say. Mark my words … this will be one of the most powerful exercises that you will ever do if you want to grow personally. (If you lead a team, consider facilitating a discussion with the 3 Impact Questions. This small group activity could be especially helpful for people who are new or who are stalled after reflecting.)


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